Do you judge your friends? When was the last time you had a critical thought?
It doesn’t matter how young or old we are, what we do for a living or where we come from in the world, the color of our skin; our political views or religious beliefs and the language we speak – we all understand the language of love.
We all want to feel love, and when we learn to love ourselves, we can fulfill all our dreams and desires. Nothing holds us back because we trust and love ourselves unconditionally.
Some of you know, I do Hip-Hop/Zumba classes three times a week. On Saturday we have a male instructor called Mario who is from Italy. His class is full to the brim with people from all over the world. Mario sings the words of the songs to us…”You’ve got to love that body, look at that body, love that body.” He dances around the room giving us the love sign with his hands and singing, “I love you, I love you, I love you, over and over again. The energy in the room is electric – people are uplifted, smiling and laughing, some are embarrassed and blushing. It’s all good. He uplifts our spirits, and people feel loved for an hour. I think I know why his class is jammed packed every Saturday!
The power of love
Whether you are healing from an illness or emotional wounds from the past; want to find that perfect relationship or release your negative thoughts around friends and people who have hurt or abused you, you’ve got to start with YOU first. Learn how to love yourself. I know your life will get better and better the deeper you fall in love with you.
How do we learn to fall in love with ourselves?
There are 12 steps that taught me how to love myself and they changed my life forever. I will share these 12 steps with you in tomorrow’s post. Take your time implementing these steps into your life. This is not a sprint – it’s a marathon. It took me many years to get it!!
When we start to love ourselves more each day, magic appears in our lives. We feel better. We act better. We are treated better! Our relationships improve. We attract more love and healing into our lives, and we can dissolve negative energy immediately.
Here are 12 steps to take to love yourself:
1. Stop criticizing and judging
Refuse to judge or criticize yourself and others; when you catch yourself being critical change your thinking to loving thoughts. Find an affirmation you love and say it as soon as you hear the criticism in your head. Try this one…” I love and approve of myself and everything I do.”
2. Forgive yourself
Release the past right now and stop judging yourself. Make sure you understand deep down inside that you did your best at the time with the awareness you had. Forgive yourself. You are changing now, and your life will be different. Download my free meditation here and start forgiving yourself and other people who have hurt you this weekend.
3. Stop the scary dark thoughts
Your critical negative thoughts create your future so stop scaring yourself with your thoughts. Think of a beautiful scene in nature or something that brings you peace and changes your thinking.
4. Be kind to yourself
Be patient and accept that this process will take some time and that there is no rush. Say beautiful things about yourself just like you would say to someone you love dearly. Be kind and loving to yourself.
5. Stop the self-hatred
Don’t beat yourself up when the bad thoughts arrive. Be kind to your mind and gently clear the thoughts away. The more you do this the better. Beating yourself up is the worst thing ever. Stop it and switch gears to loving yourself.
6. Reward Yourself
Buy yourself something that makes you feel worthy and loved. It doesn’t have to be an expensive item – treat yourself to a cup of hot chocolate (sugar free!) Make a date with yourself and do something you love to do. Take in a show. Go to the ballet or watch back to back fun movies. Go to an energy healer or Reiki session. Take up a new hobby. Make this a ritual that you do often, just because.
7. Recognize every milestone
Tell yourself how well you are doing at every chance you get. Become your best friend or your own life coach. Praise yourself at every milestone. Send yourself a beautiful text with kind words of praise or just type “I love you”! It may feel weird but it’s super cool! Try it!
8. Ask for support
Find ways to reach out to loving friends who know you well and want to help you. When we ask for help, it shows strength, never weakness.
9. Check in with your negative thoughts
Acknowledge your critical and negative thoughts and understand that you have created them and now you have no need for them. Lovingly let them go. See your negative thoughts drifting away or going up-up and away in a big hot air balloon. Bye Bye critical thoughts!
10. Take care of YOU because you are special
Learn how to eat right for your body. Get educated on how to meditate and become mindful. Choose an exercise routine that you love otherwise you won’t keep it up. Cherish your beautiful body. It’s the only one you have so don’t feed it garbage. Download my Personalized Nutrition Guide
11. Say to yourself – I love you – I love you – I love you
Say it multiple times a day. Begin right now. “I love you _____.” Say it to yourself as you drive to work, sit on the train or while having your morning tea or coffee. Make it a mantra. I say it to myself the moment I wake up. “I love you, Prue.”
12. Find joy and happiness in your life
Express love and happiness everywhere you go. Find fun things to do that make you laugh and bring you joy. Get to know the real you. When you do, I know you will fall madly in love with you.
Remember this is not a sprint it is a marathon so take all the time you need to start changing your life. Chunk it down and work out a strategy of what you will do first. Make it fun. There will be times when you will be laughing out loud at some of the things you are doing. It’s your little secret and it’s all OK.
Sit back and watch the changes unfold – the magical moments are on their way.
Prue’s quote of the day: “Don’t judge your day on the old stories of the past. Set yourself free lovely you.”
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